*Sadly we must report that death has claimed the life of another celebrity this this weekend. 80s soul singerColonel Abrams is no longer with us. According to reports, he died on November 25 at the age 67.

SoulTracks.com says that it was nearly a year ago that they reported that Abrams was suffering badly from diabetes and was financially strapped by the illness.

The Detroit-born, Manhattan raised singer began playing both piano and guitar while still quite young. By the mid 1970s he became part of the band Heavy Impact. But it was nearly a decade later that Abrams really made a name for himself with the big hit “Music Is the Answer.” It began a string of dance hits that capitalized on the electronic sounds that were popular in the mid 80s, and included “The Truth,” “Over and Over,” “I’m Not Gonna Let You,” and his biggest song, the dancelicious international hit, “Trapped.”

Here’s what Wikipedia says about Abrams:
From an early age, he began playing the guitar and piano. He was in several early bands. Among them was Heavy Impact in which he played both guitar and keyboards alongside Joe Webb (guitar), Lemar Washington (guitar), Marston “Buffy” Freeman (bass guitar), Ronald Simmons (drums), Harry Jones (trumpet) and Barbara Mills (saxophone). In 1976, he formed Conservative Manor, 94 East (the band featuring Prince on lead guitar).

He became popular on the New York underground scene via radio and club play, and had his first major hit in 1984 with “Music Is the Answer” on the independent label Streetwise. Other hits in the mid 1980s included “Leave the Message Behind the Door”, “Trapped” (a top ten hit in the UK, Ireland, Germany, and the Netherlands),[2] “The Truth,” “Speculation,” “I’m Not Gonna Let You” and “Over and Over,” establishing Abrams as a solo artist, initially in Europe and later in the US.




His biggest hit, “Trapped” reached the top five in the UK Singles Chart and topped the US Hot Dance Music/Club Play chart in 1985, followed by his self-titled album, which spent two weeks at number one the following year. It was estimated by the Phonographic Association that “Trapped” sold over five million copies worldwide by spring 1987.[citation needed] An electronic remix of “Trapped” was later released in 1995 by Boards of Canada, under the pseudonym Hell Interface. A new version of “Trapped” (“Trapped 2006”) was released in the UK.
“I’m Not Gonna Let You” also spent a week at number one in the dance chart in 1986. The album peaked at number 75 on the US Billboard Top 200 and Number 13 on the US Top R&B/Hip-Hop Albums chart. Although Abrams had no American pop hits through his career, he had a number of entries on the US Hot Dance Club Play chart in the 1980s and 1990s, including four entries that hit number one. In 1987, he had his fourth number-one US dance hit with “How Soon We Forget”, the same year that he released his second album, You and Me Equals Us.​

Soul Tracks Also writes that Abrams continued to chart on the Dance and R&B charts into the mid-90s, and performed around the world into the new century. He also formed his own Colonel Records and released music sporadically through the early part of this decade.
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Unfortunately and tragically, by December of 2015, Abrams was quite ill and homeless, and his friends began a crowdfunding campaign to help him pay for his medical treatments.

​Thanksgiving began in the fall of 1621 when a group of Native Americans joined with newly arrived English settlers to create a harvest feast together and protect each other from violence.

This year, as Americans pick out their turkeys and count their blessings, members of the Sioux Nation in Standing Rock, North Dakota, reported being attacked with tear gas, rubber bullets and water cannons in subfreezing temperatures as they protested an oil pipeline that threatens to contaminate their water and disrupt their sacred sites. Approximately 300 Native American and non-native protesters were injured in one 10-hour clash with law enforcement on Sunday evening, according to the Standing Rock Medic & Healer Council, and 26 were taken to hospitals with severe head and limb wounds, eye trauma, internal bleeding and hypothermia from being doused with water in 22-degree weather.

“Basically, it’s an act of war,” said Frank Sanchez, a delegate from the Yankton Sioux Tribe, in an interview with The Huffington Post. 

The government says the $3.7 billion Dakota Access Pipeline is the safest, most efficient way to carry crude oil from North Dakota to Illinois. But the project has become a rallying point for Native Americans because the pipe would cut under the Missouri River within a mile of the Standing Rock Sioux Reservation, potentially contaminating the local tribes’ source of fresh water and encroaching on land that the U.S. government had agreed to set aside for them in an 1851 treaty. The clash between protesters, who call themselves “water protectors,” and North Dakota law enforcement reached a boiling point on Sunday, when force was used to keep protesters off a barricaded bridge about a mile south of the pipeline construction site. 

XThe Morton County Sheriff’s Department said the demonstrators were being violent. The Sioux ― who have long suffered economically ― say the blocked-off bridge is the main access point to their reservation, and they are trying to protect the land and water that have sustained them for centuries.

“I’m a prisoner of war in my own land,” said Sanchez. “That’s the only way I can see it. We have the right to hunt, fish and gather, as we always did, but all the barbed wire fences and posts to ‘Keep out’ have to come down so we can continue living the way we’ve always lived.”

Sanchez, 61, is in Washington, D.C., this week lobbying the federal government on behalf of the Sioux tribes. He is a direct descendant of the man who signed the Treaty of Fort Laramie in 1851, in which the U.S. government ceded portions of five states to the Sioux and agreed to strict rules preventing outsiders from accessing Sioux territory. But Congress soon broke its end of the bargain by seizing the Black Hills of South Dakota in 1877, when gold was discovered there ― and the government’s land grabs have continued. 
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“This issue could have been settled years ago, but we don’t have the money for attorneys to represent us,” he said. 
The government seems to have at least recognized the problem, temporarily suspending construction in Standing Rock. Last week, the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers said it needed more time to decide whether to build on Sioux land. 

​Culled from Huffmanpost
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/standing-rock-sioux-tear-gas-thanksgiving_us_583496a3e4b000af95ece35d

If you thought people that enjoy having sex with inanimate objects was weird, you’re going to want to stick around for this doozy.

Remember Tracy Kiss? That model who admitted that she enjoys covering her face in semen to keep her skin soft? Well, she’s back, and this time she’s out to admit to the world for some reason that not only does she enjoy it on her face, she enjoys it in her smoothie. You know, Tracy, you can always just have your smoothie with fruit. That’s an idea.

The 29-year-old vegan, who is also a nutritional adviser (if that matters to you), actually mixes typical smoothie ingredients like fruit, coconut or almond milk, seeds, and oh yeah, semen. And she has no problem drinking the semen without all that other extra stuff, claiming that it fights off sicknesses and improves her mood.

She takes one of these “shakes” every day.And if you’re wondering where she gets her…um…supply, well, according to Tracy a generous friend stops by three times a week with his offerings. What a friendship.

And here’s what Tracy told Vice for people who may not agree with what she does: “In relationships, you put fingers in holes, you taste things, and you don’t see it as cringeworthy. But when you take away the passion and say it’s scientific, people don’t like it.”
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That’s right, “fingers in holes.” Well, good luck with your health routine, Tracy. Now let’s look at some of her pictures thanks to Instagram:

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14 Reasons Why Semen is the Healthiest Substance Ever (semen = sperm fluid)Semen is the fluid or casing that holds sperm.  Sperm is a cell that floats around in the fluid and reaches the embryo to impregnate the female.  Semen is quite nutritious and has a bunch of interesting properties. Semen needs to have all of the ingredients to transport sperm to the embryo safely.  It needs nutrients, antioxidants, and anti-inflammatories (and more!) in order for the female not to attack the sperm.  We can utilize the benefits of semen for various health benefits!  See how 
 
As you will see, being a man, I have a strong a conflict of interest with this post. Be skeptical 

Before I delve into the benefits of semen, we should have some idea of how you’re going to get these benefits.

For Men
For men, there’s a technique called ‘injaculting‘, where the semen is not excreted, but instead reabsorbed in your blood. It’s like getting an intravenous infusion of semen because it goes directly into your blood – the best delivery system.

For WomenFor women, there are four options: swallowing, sublingual, anal or not using a condom.
The swallowing method won’t produce all of the benefits because much of the ingredients in semen are destroyed or denatured by the stomach.

Sublingual or allowing it to absorb under your tongue and then swallowing is a better option, but still not perfect.

The anal route was suggested by a commenter, and it might work, but I don’t know.Does the semen have enough pressure to get absorbed?  Maybe.

The vaginal route is probably most effective, but for women, there’s a real fear of STDs and infections transferring through the semen.

Like anything you take in, make sure your supply source of semen is trustworthy and free of STDs.
If you trust your partner, you can use an IUD and get the benefits of semen (but that has its own issues).

Health Benefits of Semen and Sperm1) Semen is an Anti-DepressantIn a survey of 293 college women at SUNY Albany about intercourse with and without condoms, it was found that those who didn’t use condoms had lower levels of depression and better moods.

This is surprising because risky sex (ie without condoms) is usually associated with negative self-esteem and depressed mood.

Among women who “always” or “usually” used condoms, about 20 percent reported suicidal thoughts, but among those who used condoms only “sometimes,” the figure was much lower, 7 percent, and among women who “never” used condoms, only 5 percent reported suicidal thoughts 

Semen contains many ingredients that could be responsible for this effect.
Probably the most significant one is Nerve Growth Factor, which has potent antidepressant and cognitive enhancing effects.
Semen also includes mood enhancers such as oxytocin, progesterone,endorphins, prolactin, TRH, and serotonin.

2) Semen is an Anti-Anxiety
Semen includes anti-anxiety hormones such as oxytocin and progesterone.  It also has serotonin.
Few people realize that a strong driving force of anxiety comes from oxidative stress (R), which is why it often goes along with brain fog and fatigue issues.

3) Semen Contains Antioxidants and CombatsOxidative StressSemen contains a number of antioxidants such as Melatonin, SOD, Catalase, GPx, Glutathione, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, Pyruvate and Carnitine .

It also includes hormones/peptides that are antioxidants such as NGF, Oxytocin(R) and Progesterone 
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Semen contains uric acid, which is also an antioxidant, but I don’t know if it’s in a meaningful concentration to be medically useful.
4) Semen is an Anti-Inflammatory

I’ve suffered from a lot of inflammation until I went on the lectin avoidance diet.
Semen contains anti-inflammatories/immunosuppressants so that it’s not attacked when it enters the woman.
snps/”>oxytocin,progesterone, testosterone and cortisol and certain prostaglandins (R) are anti-inflammatories.  TGF-beta in semen also helps create tolerance to proteins.
5) Semen Contains A Lot of  Healthy HormonesSemen has good hormones that people are often low in:

• Oxytocin  – has anti-anxiety properties and helps with wound healing.
• Progesterone  – has anti-anxiety properties.
• Follicle-stimulating hormone 
• Luteinizing hormone (LH) 
• Testosterone  -women can have too low or too high testosterone.
• TRH – an anti-inflammatory and mood enhancer.
• Cortisol  – which can reduce inflammation and can be good in pulses.
• Estrone, Estrone Sulphate  – good if levels are too low.
• Estrogen (in bulls) – good if levels are too low.

6) Semen May Help Prevent CancerStudies suggest that semen might reduce breast cancer by “not less than 50 percent.”

This effect is attributed to various proteins, selenium, and TGF-beta in semen.
7) Semen is a Cognitive Enhancer: It ContainsNerve Growth Factor (NGF)

Nerve growth factor (NGF) is important for the growth, maintenance, and survival of  neurons, including the axons ( the part where electrical signal passes).  It also promotes myelin repair, which is the coating around the axons.

Rita Levi-Montalcini won a Nobel Prize for discovering nerve growth factor and she used NGF eye drops it to increase her life- and health-span.
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NGF is abundant in semen.  Recent studies have found that it induces ovulation (the release of the egg from ovaries) in some mammals, which can help with fertility .
Stress and anxiety decrease NGF.  Low NGF levels are found in atherosclerosis, obesity, type 2 diabetes and metabolic syndrome.
NGF is an anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant and may be helpful for a variety of conditions including depression, MS, and schizophrenia, among others.
In case you aren’t in the mood of swallowing cum, other good ways to enhance NGF include Yoga (even a single 20-minute session)  and falling in love.

For the whole-fooders, Green Tea/EGCG  and Rosemary (Carnosic acid)  increase NGF.
For the supplement junkies such as myself, my favorite substances to increase NGF include Butyrate, Zinc, Lithium, Berberine, PQQ, Vitamin D and Melatonin.

8) Semen May Keep Infections at BaySemen contains many proteins with potent antimicrobial activity against bacteria, fungi, and viruses.

9) Semen Can Increase LifespanSemen contains Spermidine, which has been found to increase lifespan.
Spermidine has been found to reduce the amount of aging in yeast, flies, worms, and human immune cells by inducing autophagy.
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Spermidine is a longevity agent due to its ability to regulate gene expression .
Other good sources of spermidine include grapefruit juice  and tempeh.

10) Semen Can Prevent Hair Loss
If the men haven’t been paying attention, I believe I now have your listening ears.
Spermidine has been tested and discovered to encourage hair shaft elongation and lengthen hair growth. Spermidine has also been found to increase stem cells that lead to hair growth
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11) Semen Increases Sex Drive
Semen contains testosterone .
Testosterone increases libido in both men and women.
Testosterone gets absorbed through a woman’s vaginal walls, or even through the act of swallowing semen .

12) Semen Prevents PreeclampsiaI’ve spoken about inducing oral tolerance by ingesting a food with other substances. Ingredients in semen such as TGF-beta can help induce oral tolerance.
When a woman swallows cum, she will become tolerant to her partner’s proteins that are found in sperm.  This is thought to reduce the risk of preeclampsia .

A study done shows that oral sex and swallowing semen may help make a woman’s pregnancy safer and more successful 
TGF-beta might also enhance brain function. High blood levels of TGF-beta are associated with increased thickness in certain brain regions in healthy subjects.

13) Semen Increases FertilitySemen contains NGF, which increases fertility in mammals by increasing ovulation. Decode Your Genome. Get Health Insights from your Genes!LEARN MORE14) Semen is NutritiousI’d like to mention that most of the nutrients aren’t in meaningful concentrations when you look at each nutrient alone, but on the whole, it’s pretty good.

For example, a normal semen ejaculate contains 0.56mg of Zinc, whereas the average person gets probably 20X that in their diet and I take about 20mg of supplemental Zinc daily.

However, since the body only absorbs 20 percent of dietary zinc, the requirements for zinc should theoretically increase by approximately 2.5 mg after each ejaculation.  But if you are injaculating or swallowing, then you are getting some of that zinc back.

Zinc serves to help to stabilize the DNA-containing chromatin in the sperm cells. A zinc deficiency may result in lowered fertility because of increased sperm fragility. Zinc deficiency can also adversely affect sperm production (.
Semen contains ):
PROPERTYPER 100MLIN AVERAGE VOLUME (3.4ML)
Calcium (mg)27.60.938
Chloride (mg)1424.83
Citrate (mg)52818.0
Fructose (mg)27.69.25
Glucose (mg)1023.47
Lactic acid (g)622.11
Magnesium (mg)110.374
Potassium (mg)1093.71
Protein (g)5.040.171
Sodium (mg)30010.2
Urea (g)451.53
Zinc (mg)16.50.561I found this ingredient list on longecity and I added some other missing ingredients to this (the ones without amounts):
Chemical composition of sperm (In mg/100 ml)

• Ammonia = 2
• Ascorbic Acid/Vitamin C = 12.8
• Calcium = 25
• Carbon Dioxide = 54 ml/100 ml
• Chloride = 155
• Cholesterol = 80
• Citric acid = 376
• Copper = 006 to .024
• Nitrogen, nonprotein (total) = 913
• Phosphorus, acid-soluble = 57
• Inorganic = 11
• Lipids = 6
• Total (lipid) = 112
• Phosphorylcholine = 250-380
• Glutathione = 30
• Glycerylphorylcholine = 54-90
• Inositol = 50.57
• Lactic Acid = 35
• Magnesium = 14
• Potassium = 89
• Pyruvic Acid = 29
• Sodium = 281
• Sorbitol = 10
• Vitamin B 12 = 300-600 ppg
• Sulfur = 3% (of ash)
• Urea = 72
• Uric acid = 6
• Zinc = 14
• Sialic acid
• Acid phosphatase
• Ash=9.9%
• Creatine
• DNA
• Ergothioneine
• Fibrinolysin
• Flavins
• Fructose
• Galactose
• Mucus
• Prostaglandins
• Prostate specific antigen,
• Proteolytic enzymes,

Aziza Miller knows New York.  It's her home.  The pulse and the energy of the city manifests in her fusion of funk, jazz, soul, Latin, and spoken word.  New York also knows Aziza.  Some of the city's most prestigious venues have welcomed her to standing room-only crowds.  Whether headlining at Joe’s Pub, The Blue Note, Iridium Jazz Club, The Metropolitan Room, Brooklyn Academy of Music's BAM Café, or any number of other celebrated haunts, Aziza spellbinds audiences with her original compositions as well as her peerless musicianship that has sparked her acclaimed writing collaborations with Natalie Cole ("La Costa"), Ahmad Jamal ("Whisperings," among others), Ray Bryant ("One Fine Day"), Tommy Turrentine ("Big Brown Eyes"), and UK-based DJ Ben Westbeech ("Get Closer").  And it's not only world-class musicians who thrill to Aziza's soulful yet sophisticated melodies, it's a loyal audience that spans the globe and crosses every generation.


Music fans have long anticipated Aziza's latest collection of songs, This Journey of Love (2016).  Hailed as a "filler-free winner" (The Urban Music Scene), "a beautiful hybrid of Aziza's jazz leanings and soul phrasings" (Dusty Groove), and  "a solid production of top-tier quality jazz/R&B with phat keys skills, fine melodies and hooks, and smart vocals" (The Smooth Jazz Ride),  This Journey of Love features Aziza's tributes to Horace Silver ("A Song for Silver"), Natalie Cole ("A Song for My Friend"), and four additional compositions that spotlight Aziza's talents as both composer and musical artisan.


This Journey of Love follows a trio of releases that explored Aziza's unique blend of jazz, soul, and poetry,  Jazzsoetry Vol. 1(2007), Jazzsoetry Vol. 2 (2010), and What's On Your Mind?(2014). How

Catherine Manna aka Kiki M, was born in Toronto Ontario Canada.....

into a highly musical and passionate Italian family. At the age of three, Kiki began taking piano lessons, at the Royal Conservatory of Music. Catherine apeared on a popular dance show on Toronto's City T.V "Junior Dance Boogie" at the age of 14, in the mid 70's

In High school being actively involved in Music she became vice-president of the senior choir at Woodlands High School . In fact, she was the first vocalist to sing for the jazz band in the history of Woodlands High.

She sang at Square One Shopping Centre the largest shopping mall in the world at the time. "I started writing music when I was 14, inspired by a music teacher in Italy," "I feel I am an inspirational artist explains Kiki, who had expereinced the presence of angelic energy, during a performance in Kelowna at the Java Express after singing a song she had written called "Are the Angels Listening" on a full moon night

The expereince was written by a local resident "Angel Expert" and Reiki Master Pamela Shelly and

it was published in Issues Magazine, and the song is receiving regular airplay.

I’ve been told by a following of fans that I am a gifted singer, like an angel.
Catherine was an extra in two movies in 1984/85  In Toronto Ontario
"Loose Screws" and "American Flyers"

The message is love. That is what my purpose is -to make a difference. Aside from writing music Kiki is writing a few Childrens story's and a spiritual self-help book entitled What Is Love, a process that has emerged from her own spiritual awakening.

I am here to share music, a gift from our Creator, and to make a difference with the message of LOVE and PEACE, To help heal the world.

Be Blessed,with love,Joy,peace,happiness,good health and Longevity!!

Inspiration, ambition, love, it’s all about feeding the mind and spirit...that’s the essence of Kiki M. For more information, contact Kiki M: Email:

Mannacathy@hotmail.com
Performances In 2005 Catherine Performed at the CHIN International Picnic Toronto Ontario Italian day

Blessed to have been invited to perform for Supreme Master Ching Hai in California for a show called "A Celebration of Life" along side Masters of Ceremomy Producer Bernie Williams and Hosts Actress and activist Marianna Toscana,Billy Macnamara heres what he had to say about Catherine's Performance.

"I was totally mesmerized and blown away by your performance" Bernie Williams Producer "What about Bob" "Charlettes Web"

"I loved your performance you are a Goddess" Debra Wilson Actress Comedian Mad TV

Along side many volenteer work performances, fund raisers for the Canadian Cancer Society Relay for Races Luminary Ceremony Kelowna B.C 100,000 was raised for Cancer Resarch,The Humain Society fund raiser, B.C.S.P.C.A Walk in the Park, and the Peachland music Festival raising awareness against the abuse of Children.





Read more: http://catherinemanna.webnode.com/bio/

HPD IntroductionHistrionic Personality Disorder is characterized by an extreme interest in drawing the attentions of others, favorable or unfavorable, to oneself.

HPD is estimated to affect up to 10% of the population.

People who suffer from HPD are sometimes accused of being a "drama queen" or "drama major". They are the people who grab the microphone, hog the limelight, always change the subject to themselves, behave outrageously, have tantrums and generally refuse to be ignored.

HPD is a serious condition that isolates those who surround the people who have the disorder.
A mnemonic that has sometimes been used to describe the criteria for histrionic personality disorder is “PRAISE ME”:

P - provocative (or seductive) behavior
R - relationships, considered more intimate than they are
A - attention, must be at center of
I - influenced easily
S - speech (style) - wants to impress, lacks detail
E - emotional liability, shallowness
M - make-up - physical appearance used to draw attention to self
E - exaggerated emotions - theatrical

However, people who suffer from HPD are often just as interested in attracting negative attention, including shock, anger, outrage, shame, guilt and remorse.

Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) - The DSM CriteriaHistrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) is listed in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic & Statistical Manual (DSM) as a Cluster B (dramatic, emotional, or erratic) Personality Disorder:

A pervasive pattern of excessive emotionality and attention seeking, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. Is uncomfortable in situations in which he or she is not the center of attention
2. Interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior
3. Displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
4. Consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self
5. Has a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail
6. Shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion
7. Is suggestible, i.e., easily influenced by others or circumstances
8. Considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are.
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HPD Characteristics & TraitsThe following list is a collection of some of the more commonly observed behaviors and traits of those who suffer from HPD. Click on the links on each one for more information about a particular trait or behavior and some ideas for coping with each.

Note that these traits are given as a guideline only and are not intended for diagnosis. People who suffer from HPD are all unique and so each person will display a different subset of traits. Also, note that everyone displays "borderline" behaviors from time to time. Therefore, if a person exhibits one or some of these traits, that does not necessarily qualify them for a diagnosis of HPD. See the DSM Criteria on this page for diagnostic criteria.

Acting Out - Acting Out behavior refers to a subset of personality disorder traits that are more outwardly-destructive than self-destructive.

"Always" and "Never" Statements - "Always" and "Never" Statements are declarations containing the words "always" or "never". They are commonly used but rarely true.

Anger - People who suffer from personality disorders often feel a sense of unresolved anger and a heightened or exaggerated perception that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused.

Baiting - A provocative act used to solicit an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another individual.

Belittling, Condescending and Patronizing - This kind of speech is a passive-aggressive approach to giving someone a verbal put-down while maintaining a facade of reasonableness or friendliness.

Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.

Catastrophizing - The habit of automatically assuming a "worst case scenario" and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events.

Chaos Manufacture - Unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.

Cheating - Sharing a romantic or intimate relationship with somebody when you are already committed to a monogamous relationship with someone else.

Circular Conversations - Arguments which go on almost endlessly, repeating the same patterns with no resolution.

Confirmation Bias - The tendency to pay more attention to things which reinforce your beliefs than to things which contradict them.

Denial - Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or personal and emotional well-being.

Depression - People who suffer from personality disorders are often also diagnosed with symptoms of depression.

Dissociation- A psychological term used to describe a mental departure from reality.

Emotional Abuse - Any pattern of behavior directed at one individual by another which promotes in them a destructive sense of Fear, Obligation or Guilt (FOG).

Emotional Blackmail - A system of threats and punishments used in an attempt to control someone’s behaviors.
Engulfment - An unhealthy and overwhelming level of attention and dependency on another person, which comes from imagining or believing one exists only within the context of that relationship.
Escape To Fantasy - Taking an imaginary excursion to a happier, more hopeful place.

False Accusations - Patterns of unwarranted or exaggerated criticism directed towards someone else.

Favoritism and Scapegoating - Systematically giving a dysfunctional amount of preferential positive or negative treatment to one individual among a family group of peers.

Fear of Abandonment - An irrational belief that one is imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced.

Feelings of Emptiness - An acute, chronic sense that daily life has little worth or significance, leading to an impulsive appetite for strong physical sensations and dramatic relationship experiences.

Frivolous Litigation - The use of unmerited legal proceedings to hurt, harass or gain an economic advantage over an individual or organization.

Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior by one individual towards another.

Holiday Triggers - Mood Swings in Personality-Disordered individuals are often triggered or amplified by emotional events such as family holidays, significant anniversaries and events which trigger emotional memories.

Hoovers & Hoovering - A Hoover is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim trying to assert their own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship, gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.

Hysteria - An inappropriate over-reaction to bad news or disappointments, which diverts attention away from the real problem and towards the person who is having the reaction.

Identity Disturbance - A psychological term used to describe a distorted or inconsistent self-view

Impulsiveness - The tendency to act or speak based on current feelings rather than logical reasoning.

Invalidation - The creation or promotion of an environment which encourages an individual to believe that their thoughts, beliefs, values or physical presence are inferior, flawed, problematic or worthless.

Lack of Conscience - Individuals who suffer from Personality Disorders are often preoccupied with their own agendas, sometimes to the exclusion of the needs and concerns of others. This is sometimes interpreted by others as a lack of moral conscience.

Lack of Object Constancy - An inability to remember that people or objects are consistent, trustworthy and reliable, especially when they are out of your immediate field of vision.

Low Self-Esteem - A common name for a negatively-distorted self-view which is inconsistent with reality.

Manipulation - The practice of steering an individual into a desired behavior for the purpose of achieving a hidden personal goal.

Masking - Covering up one's own natural outward appearance, mannerisms and speech in dramatic and inconsistent ways depending on the situation.

Mood Swings - Unpredictable, rapid, dramatic emotional cycles which cannot be readily explained by changes in external circumstances.

"Not My Fault" Syndrome - The practice of avoiding personal responsibility for one's own words and actions.

No-Win Scenarios - When you are manipulated into choosing between two bad options

Panic Attacks - Short intense episodes of fear or anxiety, often accompanied by physical symptoms, such as hyperventilating, shaking, sweating and chills.

Push-Pull - A chronic pattern of sabotaging and re-establishing closeness in a relationship without appropriate cause or reason.

Raging, Violence and Impulsive Aggression - Explosive verbal, physical or emotional elevations of a dispute. Rages threaten the security or safety of another individual and violate their personal boundaries.

Relationship Hyper Vigilance - Maintaining an unhealthy level of interest in the behaviors, comments, thoughts and interests of others.

Riding the Emotional Elevator - Taking a fast track to different levels of emotional maturity.

Sabotage - The spontaneous disruption of calm or status quo in order to serve a personal interest, provoke a conflict or draw attention.

Selective Memory and Selective Amnesia - The use of memory, or a lack of memory, which is selective to the point of reinforcing a bias, belief or desired outcome.

Selective Competence - Demonstrating different levels of intelligence, memory, resourcefulness, strength or competence depending on the situation or environment.

Self-Aggrandizement - A pattern of pompous behavior, boasting, narcissism or competitiveness designed to create an appearance of superiority.

Self-Harm - Any form of deliberate, premeditated injury, such as cutting, poisoning or overdosing, inflicted on oneself.

Self-Loathing - An extreme hatred of one's own self, actions or one's ethnic or demographic background.

Self-Victimization - Casting oneself in the role of a victim.

Sense of Entitlement - An unrealistic, unmerited or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others.

Silent Treatment - A passive-aggressive form of emotional abuse in which displeasure, disapproval and contempt is exhibited through nonverbal gestures while maintaining verbal silence.

Situational Ethics - A philosophy which promotes the idea that, when dealing with a crisis, the end justifies the means and that a rigid interpretation of rules and laws can be set aside if a greater good or lesser evil is served by doing so.

Splitting - The practice of regarding people and situations as either completely "good" or completely "bad".

Stunted Emotional Growth - A difficulty, reluctance or inability to learn from mistakes, work on self-improvement or develop more effective coping strategies.

Testing - Repeatedly forcing another individual to demonstrate or prove their love or commitment to a relationship.

Thought Policing - Any process of trying to question, control, or unduly influence another person's thoughts or feelings.

Threats - Inappropriate, intentional warnings of destructive actions or consequences.

Triggering -Small, insignificant or minor actions, statements or events that produce a dramatic or inappropriate response.

Tunnel Vision - The habit or tendency to only see or focus on a single priority while neglecting or ignoring other important priorities.

What it feels like to live with someone with HPDLiving with a person who suffers from HPD can be an exhausting, humiliating, frustrating and isolating experience. It may feel like living with a toddler or child.

When they create chaos, it is often you who are the one who has to clean it up, be the "reasonable" one, make excuses and pay the consequences.

People who act out with HPD traits typically do not seek solutions to the problems they manufacture, because solutions tend to reduce the amount of attention they are likely to receive. Those closest to them often become frustrated as their attempts to help out or improve the situation often go ignored and may even be sabotaged.

It's also common for people closest to an HPD suffer to temporarily "abandon" caring for the person in an attempt to "teach them a lesson" after their attempts to help have been ignored or rejected. However, this is likely to trigger an equally hysterical "why don't you care" reaction. This often leaves the non-personality-disordered individual feeling trapped, used, and manipulated.

Trying to make someone with HPD happy may feel like trying to fill a black hole or empty the ocean.  Your loved one’s personality disorder often prevents them from seeing the destructiveness of their own behaviors and keeps them from noticing or empathizing with your own needs .

When your loved one acts out in front of other people, you may feel embarrassed or humiliated to be associated with them. You may feel as though others assume that you are guilty by association. You may begin to avoid public groups, settings and situations for fear that it will not go well.

When your loved one acts out destructively, you may fear their next move. You may feel afraid for your own safety or feel angry that you are not being treated with respect.

Other symptoms of living with a person who suffers from HPD:

• Important problems or concerns take a back seat to trivial, fabricated or exaggerated problems of a loved one
• You find yourself making excuses or covering up abnormal public behavior.
• You find them rapidly cycling between extreme emotional highs and lows without pausing at normal.
• Other healthy relationships and activities you enjoy outside the relationship are seen as competitive and discouraged or forbidden.

HPD Possible CausesThe instinctive desire to attract the attentions of others is an important survival skill in humans. It serves a useful purposeful in early childhood, gaining parental attention amidst a clamor of siblings, gaining social acceptance among childhood peers and in attracting members of the opposite sex during early adulthood.

Most adults learn to self-regulate these attention-seeking instincts by considering their other long-term interests such as the advantages of stable relationships, earning the trust and respect of others, and the security of investments. People who suffer from HPD generally do not develop this level of emotional regulation or recognize when their short-term desire for attention is at odds with their own long-term interests.

The causes of histrionic personality disorder are not well understood and there is some debate over to what degree HPD is caused is by "nature or nurture". It is common for HPD to be passed down through family generations. Parents who have histrionic tendencies are often turbulent and inconsistent in their parenting approach. This has led to some debate over whether HPD traits are passed on genetically or by environment.

HPD is more commonly diagnosed in women than in men by a factor of about 4 to 1

HPD shares a number of similarities to NPD, which is more commonly diagnosed in men. This has led to some theories that Histrionic Personality Disorder is a feminine manifestation of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

HPD Treatment
People who suffer from HPD are often impulsive in nature, which tends to make them inconsistent when it comes to seeking and following up with therapy. They are prone to exaggerating their problems.

They may seek out a therapist's help is dealing with a perceived crisis but will often drop away from the therapy program without following through on action items when their feelings change. This makes treatment of people with HPD especially difficult.

People with HPD are often diagnosed as having a depression when they exaggerate the negatives in their situation and may also be diagnosed as bipolar if the therapist observes them alternating between describing high or low emotional states.
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It's common for people who suffer from Histrionic personality disorder to go through a repetitive series of failed relationships where a partner is initially idealized for their positive attributes, then devalued or "split black" after a disappointment occurs.

Internet "trolls" — people who intentionally incite discord in online communities — may have a lot in common with real-life sadists, new research suggests.In two studies conducted online, researchers examined personality traits and the online commenting styles of 1,215 people.

The investigators found that Internet trolls tended to have personality traits related to sadism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism – a term used by psychologists to describe a person's tendency to deceive and manipulate others for personal gain. The link between trolling and sadism was the strongest out of all three traits, the researchers said.

So what could explain the links between trolling and sadism? Simply put, some people seem to enjoy being argumentative and purposefully disruptive, according to the researchers.

"Both trolls and sadists feel sadistic glee at the distress of others," the researchers, from the University of Manitoba in Canada, wrote in the study. "Sadists just want to have fun … and the Internet is their playground!"

"In real life, some people are destructive and deceptive," said Michelle Drouin, an associate professor at Indiana University–Purdue University Fort Wayne (IPFW), who was not involved in the study. "This study, like others that are emerging lately, provides another perspective on the ways in which people's real lives and selves are crossing virtual boundaries."

Unfortunately, in some cases this behavior may become sadistic, and some people may want to cause pain or discomfort to others, Drouin told Live Science.

To conduct the first study, the researchers recruited 418 people, with an average age of 29, to complete survey questions online. One of the measures of sadistic personality used in the study was the so-called Short Sadistic Impulse Scale, which includes 10 items that assess a person's tendency to enjoy hurting others. For example, one of the statements presented is, "Hurting people is exciting." The study participants were asked to rate each item on five-point scales from one to five (with "one" meaning to strongly disagree and "five" meaning to strongly agree).

In the first study, the researchers also used the so-called Varieties of Sadistic Tendencies scale, which includes six items aimed at assessing direct sadism, such as identifying with the phrase, "I enjoy hurting people," and seven items to assess what's known as vicarious sadism. People who are vicariously sadistic may enjoy seeing cruelty in movies or video games. One of the ways used to assess this form of sadism was asking whether the people in the study identified with the following phrase: "In video games, I like the realistic blood spurts."  

The participants rated the various items on a seven-point scale from 1 (not at all) to 7 (very much). The researchers also assessed the participants' Internet behavior patterns by asking them about their preferred activities while commenting online. Some of the choices included "chatting with other users," "making new friends" and "trolling other users."

In the second study, the researchers constructed another trolling measure that they called the Global Assessment of Internet Trolling (GAIT) scale. They used this tool to assess people's trolling behavior and levels of enjoyment. They also asked people in the study how much time they typically spent online.

The investigators found a link between online commenting frequency and the enjoyment of trolling, which is consistent with previous research that has established an association between excessive use of technology and antisocial behavior.

The study did not find a relationship between sadism and other harmless online activities, such as chatting and debating. And, unlike sadists, narcissists in the study did not appear to enjoy online trolling.

Drouin said that "the Internet presents unique opportunities for anonymity, so people can distance themselves from their acts in terms of personal responsibility.

"Thus, the Internet may, as the authors suggest, be a sadist’s playground," she added.

1. Clutter
Practice the power of letting go by giving away your candle holders, jeans that don’t fit, extra dishes, cups, odds, ends, and other things that don’t really matter to you.

2. Guilt
If feeling bad about things that have already happened or didn’t happen is a problem for you, redirect your thoughts and energy. Every moment you spend holding onto guilt for something you cannot change is a moment that you don’t spend being joyful, creative, loving, or present.

3. Snooze button
Sleeping in is overrated. Each new day is an opportunity to start again. Do it intentionally. Make it count. Figure out how much sleep you need for your best health and skip the snooze button.

4. Self limiting beliefs
Jonathan Fields shares Roger Bannister’s story. “Bannister was the first person to break the four- minute mile running. Until he did, it was always assumed that human beings simply could not run that fast. Bannister proved everyone wrong and, in doing so, made the impossible possible. But here’s where it got really interesting. In the years after he ran the first-ever sub-4-minute mile, dozens of others do the same. Because the thing that was stopping them wasn’t as much physiological as it was psychological. In a heartbeat, the belief system within the global communities of milers changed. Assumptions about limitations were shattered and that inspired massive action.”

It’s one of many stories that remind us if you think you can’t, you can’t. But if you think you can, watch out world.

5. FOMO
With everything that is going on in this big, beautiful world, you are going to miss out on something. FOMO (fear of missing out) signals a lack of engagement. If you are worried about what you are missing, you aren’t finding the most meaningful parts of what’s happening right now. Letting go of FOMO means abandoning the need to catch up, keep up, and measure up to connect with what’s right in front of you.

6. Debt
Getting rid of debt changes everything. It will change your relationship with money and love and give you freedom that you can’t imagine.

7. Competition
The following quote from stylist Erica Cook has shown up more than once on my Simple Words Pinterest board. It’s simple and true and a great reminder that we can rise up while lifting others on the way. “I’m not interested in competing with anyone. I hope we all make it.”

8. Proving yourself
Let go of relationships with people who need you to prove your worth. Convincing someone to love you isn’t love.

Letting go is scary and joyful all at the same time. Slowly though, the fear subsides and all you are left with is the joy.

Bipolar symptoms


When it comes to mental illness, there are plenty of stereotypes. But in reality, mood disorders can be hard to pinpoint—particularly in people with bipolar disorder symptoms.

"Chalking it up to moodiness or trouble at work or tiredness is pretty common," says Carrie Bearden, PhD, an associate professor in residence of psychiatry and behavioral sciences and psychology at the David Geffen School of Medical at UCLA. "The disorder varies in severity."

Here are 10 signs that mood problems may be due to more than a quirky or difficult personality.

Great moodBipolar disorder is characterized by up-and-down episodes of mania and depression. During a manic phase, some patients can have a total break from reality.

But hypomania, which is also a symptom of the disorder, is a high-energy state in which a person feels exuberant but hasn’t lost his or her grip on reality.

"Hypomania can be a pretty enjoyable state, really," Dr. Bearden says. A person’s mood can be elevated, they may have a lot of energy and creativity, and they may experience euphoria. This is the "up" side of bipolar disorder that some people with the condition actually enjoy—while it lasts.

Inability to complete tasks

Having a house full of half-completed projects is a hallmark of bipolar disorder. People who can harness their energy when they are in a hypomanic phase can be really productive.

Those who can’t often go from task to task, planning grand, unrealistic projects that are never finished before moving on to something else.

"They can be quite distractible and may start a million things and never finish them," says Don Malone, MD, the director of the Center for Behavioral Health and chair of the Department of Psychiatry at Cleveland Clinic, in Ohio.

Depression

A person who is in a bipolar depressive state is going to look just like someone who has regular depression. "They have the same problems with energy, appetite, sleep, and focus as others who have 'plain old depression,'" Dr. Malone says.

Unfortunately, typical antidepressants alone don't work well in patients who are bipolar. They can even make people cycle more frequently, worsening their condition, or send someone into a break-with-reality episode.

"Antidepressants can be downright dangerous in people with bipolar because they can send them into mania," he says.

IrritabilitySome people with this condition suffer from "mixed mania," where they experience symptoms of mania and depression at the same time. During this state, they are often extremely irritable.

Everyone has bad days, which is one reason this kind of bipolarity is much harder to recognize.

"We are all irritable or moody sometimes," Dr. Bearden says. "But in people with bipolar disorder it often becomes so severe that it interferes with their relationships—especially if the person is saying, 'I don’t know why I’m so irritable…I can’t control it.'"

Rapid speech
Some people are naturally talkative; we all know a motormouth or Chatty Cathy. But "pressured speech" is one of the most common symptoms of bipolar disorder.

This kind of speech occurs when someone is really not in a two-way conversation, Dr. Bearden says. The person will talk rapidly and if you try to speak, they will likely just talk over you.

They will also sometimes jump around to different topics. "What’s kind of a red flag is when it is atypical for the person to talk like this," doing it only when they are in a manic cycle but not at other times, she says.

Trouble at work
People with this disorder often have difficulty in the workplace because so many of their symptoms can interfere with their ability to show up for work, do their job, and interact productively with others.

In addition to having problems completing tasks, they may have difficulty sleeping, irritability, and an inflated ego during a manic phase, and depression at other times, which causes excessive sleeping and additional mood problems.

A lot of the workplace problems can be interpersonal ones, Dr. Malone says.

Alcohol or drug abuse
About 50% of people with bipolar disorder also have a substance abuse problem, particularly alcohol use, Dr. Bearden says.

Many people will drink when they are in a manic phase to slow themselves down, and use alcohol to improve their mood when they are depressed.

Erratic behavior
When they are in a manic phase, people with bipolar disorder can have an inflated self-esteem.

"They feel grandiose and don't consider consequences; everything sounds good to them," Dr. Malone says.

Two of the most common types of behavior that can result from this are spending sprees and unusual sexual behavior. "I have had a number of patients who have had affairs who never would have done that if they weren't in a manic episode…during this episode they exhibited behavior that is not consistent with what they would do normally," he says.

Sleep problems
People with this condition often have sleep problems. During a depression phase, they may sleep too much, and feel tired all the time.

During a manic phase, they may not sleep enough—but still never feel tired.

Even with just a few hours of sleep each night, they may feel great and have lots of energy.

Dr. Bearden says staying on a regular sleep schedule is one of the first things she recommends for bipolar patients.

Flight of idea
This symptom may be something that is hard to recognize, but it occurs frequently when someone is in a manic phase. People feel like their mind is racing and that they can't control or slow down their thoughts.

This flight of ideas sometimes occurs with pressured speech.

You know how important food is for maintaining your daily health.  The vitamins and minerals found in food are crucial for the proper functioning of your body and every system it contains.
It has been proven time and again that what food you consume has a direct impact on your total body health.  Adding the right fuel to other healthy lifestyle choices – such as regular exercise and plenty of water – will increase your chances of living longer and stronger years.

Your Food as Medicine New studies focused on the benefits of using food as medicine have made fascinating discoveries in the last decade.  The results from prestigious labs all over the world show us that not only can you improve your general health to prevent disease…you can actively fight disease…with food.

In fact, there are cancer-fighting foods specifically.
You read that right. There are natural foods available in your local market that target and destroy cancer cells and cancer-causing cells.

 Cancer-Fighting Foods You Need on Your Grocery List

1. Garlic:  Along with the other relatives in the allium family – such as onions, leeks, and shallots – garlic contains powerful antioxidants like alicin, proven to remove free radicals from your body.  It also boosts immunity, is nutrient dense, lowers blood pressure and cholesterol levels, improves brain function, and is a natural detoxifier.  Chop or crush garlic, allow to rest, then use it raw or in your favorite recipes.
2. Broccoli:  Known as a cruciferous vegetable – related to kale, cauliflower, and cabbage – broccoli is high in phytochemicals and the antioxidants glucoraphanin and indole-3-carbinol, which have been proven to reduce the risk of cervical, breast, gastric, and prostate cancers.  Naturally anti-inflammatory, good for your bones and heart, and nutrient dense (without the calories), broccoli is a great addition to a healthy eating plan.  Since phytochemicals are heat-sensitive enzymes, the benefits of broccoli are best raw or blancheGreen Tea:  The catechins found in green tea have made it a superstar in the cancer-fighting food research.  They are believed to be more powerful than vitamin C in fighting free radical damage.  In multiple lab studies, this delicious beverage has been shown to shrink existing tumors and inhibit the growth of cancer cells.  Many experts suggest green tea daily as a natural cancer preventative.  As an added benefit, it also reduces your risk of heart disease, lowers your LDL (bad) cholesterol while raising your HDL (good) cholesterol, and lowers your blood pressure.
3. Strawberries: Always delicious, there are now more reasons for you to eat these delicate fruits.  Researchers found that strawberries slow down the growth of cancer cells, protect your body from heart disease, lower inflammation, prevent memory loss, and help you burn your body’s fat stores.  Strawberries and other dark-colored berries – such as black raspberries, blueberries, boysenberries, and, goji berries – are packed with flavor so you won’t even notice how healthy they are.
4. Spinach:  Though this leafy green is low in calories, it offers incredible health benefits with vitamins, minerals, and omega-3 fatty acids that your body needs to stay strong (just like Popeye).  It contains bio-chemicals called flavonoids – at least thirteen discovered so far – that soak up damaging free radicals and flushes them out.  Particularly rich in folate and fiber – two elements that doctors believe are essential to cancer prevention – make spinach one of our favorite cancer-fighting foods.
5. Tomatoes:  It’s all about the lycopene – the antioxidant that causes the red color of tomatoes – a powerful antioxidant known for preventing the formation of certain cancers.  They also lower your risk of heart disease and are naturally anti-inflammatory.  The secret to getting the full benefits of tomatoes lies in the preparation.  Lycopene is released when tomatoes are cooked.  In fact, canned tomatoes have even higher concentrations of lycopene than fresh.
6. Carrots:  This well-loved vegetable is a wonderful source of beta-carotene, an antioxidant that aids in preventing cell damage and may slow the growth of cancer cells.  They contain falcarinol and falcarindiol – natural pesticides in the vegetable that scientists believe are the reason for their cancer-fighting abilities.  Of course, they’re good for your vision, skin, and as a natural detoxifier as well.

There are many cancer-fighting foods that we’re going to explore in more detail but these seven foods are a great place to start.  Available year-round, inexpensive, and easy to find at your local store, these foods can help start you on the road to a better diet.  And remember…always buy organic!

Eating right doesn’t have to be horrible.  You won’t regret taking this step in the right direction.